This war has been going on a while now, using revservist the ENTIRE time. This is no surprise.
Also, I don't think her comparison that parts of running a business are unexpected holds water. This is the MILITARY. The primary MISSION is to FIGHT WARs. Yes, there are things you don't expect. Being asked to fight should not be one of them.
Also, we have friends who were both in the reserves. When they had kids, one of them quit. They did not want to risk both being deployed. I am sorry, but not seeing your husband for a long time is also an expected part of the job she VOLUNTEERED for.
Yeah, it is hard. Yes it is scary. Yes, she volunteered. Yes she has collected the paychecks for however long she has been in. Now it is time she earned them.