I wish I could help you on the clothing issue. I've been having a tough time just finding regular bikini underwear! The only bikini underwear is "low rise". Yuck! Also, I had a difficult time finding regular high-heeled pumps to wear to work. I don't think I'm that picky, either!
Hey, that's great about the softball. :-) I bet that John will remember that for the rest of his life! Seriously, adults forget how even something so simple can really affect a child's life and how they think of themselves.