Maybe I can better explain it like this: For example, after my surgery, when I wasn't supposed to drive for 2 weeks, I wanted to go to the library after 1 week and my mom didn't want to drive me (she was here helping) and my dh was playing with the kids.
So I got in the car and drove myself. My dh went ballistic because he was there and I didn't ask for his help. (And before any of you ladies freak out about my use of the word ballistic, he was really worried about my health, and because I tend to push myself harder than I should. He pleaded with me to ask him next time.)
But I'm so used to going and doing things myself, I often forget to ask when he's there. Does that change your interpretation of my question? Or does your answer still apply simply because of personality differences? If so, what type of personality DOES mesh well with a SEAL?
[And interestingly enough, my dh and I are both Type A personalities. We often laugh about how good our marriage is because technically, we should be the above mentioned train wreck.]