My husband's currently standing up in a barn at the moment, on rafters, if he falls....... Or what if he goes out tonight and his flashlight goes out in the smoke barn or he gets disoriented or if he opens the door and their enough stem gas to make it explode .... Before they learned how to smoke the crop properly he had major coughing fits and trouble breathing because they stayed too long in the barns and too often. What if coming back from the neighbors on the tractor for lunch, on the highway he gets hit?? What if later this fall they are cutting wood for the furnace and he slips with the chainsaw? What if he goes down the hill by the pond with the tractor and it rolls? What if he gets too close to the cutter and it removes his leg tonight while he's cutting for tomorrow - nasty blade on that thing and a foot in diameter??
What about that poor woman with 2 small children who had to still harvest peaches, tobacco, rye crops. Yet her husband just died b/c of an accident.
I could stew 24 hrs a day over it. Instead I'm debating on whether or not to give up on digging the potatoes and go mow grass.
I can't see how you could be a military wife or fireman or or or unless you could simply learn to let it go.... You have to be 100% able to look after yourself. I do everything. From bills to groceries to kids to clothing to presents to yard work to getting the vehicles serviced - everything.
You should be that way in a normal 9 to 5 job relationship. My Grandmother didn't even know how to get money out of the bank when my Grandfather died - pay the bills???? No idea.
Has to do with survival if something happens to the other half of the team. Both sides have their job to do, both have to do them without help from the other half. Doesn't mean at the end of the day they can't snuggle on the sofa and be proud of each other.
Sheri